[TAP] Improve the abortion of queries, particularly during the UPLOAD phase.

Now, it is recommended to throw a DBCancelledException from any DBConnection
long processing. It is already done for the upload of a table, the execution
of an ADQL query and the setting of a whole TAP_SCHEMA. The flag
JDBCConnection#cancelled has now a bit different meaning: it is set even if
the Statement.cancel() fails so that any JDBCConnection function can see that
a cancellation has been requested.